In July of 2011, I woke up to the reality that I was married to an unfaithful spouse. Like most people, I thought that I would immediately walk away if my husband was unfaithful. I never imagined facing my worst fears, much less with a new baby in tow. The truth is that my son saved our marriage. If I didn’t have to fight for his happily ever after, I may not have found my own.
The months that followed were indescribably difficult. Trust is not an easy thing to earn back, especially when it has been destroyed by infidelity. I couldn’t see it at the time, but slowly my husband was earning it back. Hour by hour. Day by day. Slowly I started to remember why I said “I do” in the first place.
When we first saw the light at the end of the tunnel, we knew that we wanted to renew our vows. It was an important step for us as we chose to choose each other again, despite anything and everything that happened in the past. When you are surrounded by darkness, it’s easy to throw in the towel and part ways. Infidelity is one of many reasons why couples choose to get a divorce. Everything from money to children to parents cause couples to walk away from each other every day.
We’ve all heard that 45-50 percent of marriages end in divorce. The Redo Project is our heartbeat for helping other couples reclaim their marriages after overcoming insurmountable odds. Whether losing a child, a job, trust, or love, we want to celebrate the couples that choose to stick it out and ask for a redo – and we want that simple ask to result in a cultural shift in marriages across the country.
For more information on how you and your spouse can participate in The Redo Project, please email me at Kate.Amaya@gmail.com. I can’t wait to hear your story!